This focus on our part in the set of transactions is critical to understanding inertia in the system. Once people find a fit they tend to stay there – because it is what they know – because it is safe – because we do not know the end result if we were to try a different fit.

And this focus on our part in the set of transactions is critical to understanding conflict in the system. Once people find a fit they will do what is necessary to preserve that fit. People will defend the transactions that allow them to survive. And if one consequence of the relevant transactions is damage to another's prospects – then we have conflict.

To maximize our influence in a place – to move the set of transactions focused on a place in the direction of more value retained in the system – means that we will seek out the opportunity to make new connections. I do not think it requires that everyone involved is aware of all the forces playing out around and through us – only that those of us seeking new connections understand the motivations of those we would connect. An Aikido approach to living in place.