Ned is really a different from lots of other places where people are discussing things. Sometimes where people are expressing their opinions, emotions can run pretty hot. Sometimes passionate arguments are a great way to focus on what we really think. The problem is that online forums where the conversation is always hot tend to burn themselves out.

When I first encountered the points here I didn't know what to make about them. Many people have strong opinions about the right way to use points, and the way I use them probably isn't considered the right way. When I'm moved by something someone has said, I try to give points. Points don't mean I necessarily agree with everything said, but are a way for me to say and remember that I think what was said is important.

Even without giving points there are people here who give me feedback that in some way I'm important to them. Everyone needs to be reminded that they are significant. And perhaps there is no truer reminder to oneself than to recognize and appreciate others how others are significant to you.

People here at Ned are very passionate and opinionated. I think that points and personal appreciations are part of what keeps the discussions true and burning rather than becoming so hot they burn up.

Have courage to say what you think. Take courage that sometimes the way you think will be changed by others. Many more people read than write, so you may not always be aware how many your words reach. And you may not always be aware how many people hold you in high esteem. No matter what, if you speak truthfully from your heart, there will always be people here who will love you and support you in your efforts. We all want to make a good world and we can only do that together.